Truth, no matter the character of the messenger, is immutable.
Claims made by scientist can be separated from the scientists who make them. Unlike the restaurant critic, movie critic, and the Monday morning quarterback who opine from their experience-biased perspective, scientific truth is disconnected from the scientist.
Sir Isaac Newton (1642 -1727), arguably the greatest scientist that every lived, was extremely anti-social. More than any other person, Newton was single-handedly responsible for laying the groundwork in classical mechanics, optics, and even mathematics (yes it was Newton who came up with Calculus – now you know who to blame!). Newton was elected as a Member of Parliament in 1689 and served for exactly one year. During that time, he said one and only one sentence during the lengthy proceedings: he asked a nearby usher to close an open, drafty window!
Despite his surly demeanor, he discovered that force is equal to mass times acceleration. That is an unchangeable law of the universe. A truth disassociated from its discoverer. Just like the law of gravity, it is absolute truth.
Just like there is absolute scientific truth that governs the physical universe, there is absolute relationship truth that governs our relationships. However, far too many leaders run from Truth (the capital “T” is intentional). These leaders don’t want to come across as if they are intolerant, biased, or dogmatic so the choice is made to hide in passivity seeking to be liked, accepted and stay safe instead of leading. Relational truth, like scientific truth, must be embraced to be experienced.
- It is better to give than to get
- Trust and respect is more important than being liked
- Any behavior not confronted will continue
- Leadership is about influence not about power and control
- Money follows value (your raise becomes effective when you do!)
- To serve is better than to be served
Relational Truth that is real Truth is indubitable. Don’t be afraid of Truth. Seek it. Pursue it. Challenge accepted thinking – far too often the herd is going in the wrong direction!
Tony Dungy, the Super Bowl winning football coach put it this way, “be hard headed if you are right”.